Yami Gautam claims that 'some high-end designers don't give you their outfits,' and she was told that 'you haven't arrived until you're seen at parties.'

Yami Gautam has once again caused the audience to sit up and take notice. In Dasvi, in which she plays a tough IPS officer alongside Abhishek Bachchan and Nimrat Kaur, she sits down for a chat. Yami, like her on-screen persona, does not believe in bowing to the system's dictates in order to carve out her own space. The actor, who admits she is "finally happy" with where her career is headed, discusses the system and how she keeps her place in the Indian film industry sacred.

Yami’s reply to getting good roles and that to back-to-back she says “It feels good to be finally getting on that path. No one knows the final destination, but I want to take the path where I get to do substantial roles, be a part of good stories and good cinema, be it any genre. I started off really well, I began with a very unconventional role that got a very conventional success. But there came a point in the middle where things were not that great. I was working, doing films, but they were nowhere near what I’d thought I’d like to do as an actor.”

She further added “With Uri and Bala, things just changed for me, even when I was not the only actor in the film. So, even you have to shift gears some times. I changed my thought process, I decided to get what I seek. And, now I think filmmakers and writers are also improvising and reworking the structure to create better roles for women.”

Yami also explained how some stars manager asked her to attend bollywood parties and network herself out there so people would notice her and this is what she says “Recently I reached early for a meeting, where I met somebody’s manager, somebody really senior. I had just happened to meet her. She and I were conversing and she asked me how she doesn’t see me in many parties. I didn’t understand what’s the big deal, but she insisted that I need to be seen in these places.

She further said, ‘Until you’re not seen, you’ve not arrived’. I told her that I thought I had arrived with a very good film, but she kept on insisting that I need to network and get out, I need to up my game, and be seen everywhere. She also said, ‘you might have done a great first film, but that’s over, you’re forgotten’. I told her that I will not go, because to be a part of these parties, I first have to be invited. To which she said she can get that done for me. But that’s not how I want to go, I don’t want to get myself invited, I don’t come from that thought process.”

She also was aksed about wearing her mother’s saree for her wedding day and not wearing a designer lehenga or saree to that she replies “ My wedding was an extension of my personality, and my core values. I am lucky to have a partner who thinks like me. Wedding is your day, you should do everything you feel like doing, which give you happiness. No one should dictate that for you.

She further added, “I’ve had the privilege to have some really good designers I can lean on. But, even in the fashion industry, there are some high-end designers who don’t give you their outfits because you are not so and so. It is the entire system. I remember I heard that about myself once. That person said, ‘No, that lehenga is not for you’, and I was like ‘What, why?!’, and they said, ‘No, just doesn’t work with that designer’. It was so mean. I don’t understand what the criteria is, how can you make someone feel so bad? But its not true for all designers, some of them are really good with their work and their attitude.”

In the end she summed up saying, “I had it in my head that when it is my special day, it is going to be my way. It was going to be my mother’s saree, because the way I feel about it and connect with that emotion. Our rituals were very important to me, absorbing everything that we were doing was of utmost importance to us, and we did that.”